“She did all the mom stuff,” recalls Ross, an engineer with Ford. “It was always so nice to have Kristen there to make sure I wasn’t charging off in the wrong direction as a parent,” Ross says. Now, I try to think about what Kristen would do in a situation. Census Bureau, about 15 million women ages 35 to 49 are widows; some 5 million men in the same bracket are widowers. Young widowhood is a reality with which Kelly Thorp of Plymouth came face-to-face in February 2011 when her husband, Ed, succumbed at age 40 to the acute leukemia he battled off and on for more than nine years.I try to re-imagine how she’d temper my exasperation.” Helping a child grieve while grieving the loss of your co-parent, spouse and best friend is reality for millions of Americans. “Before Ed died, he shared that he didn’t want to leave us,” recalls Thorp, who’s an IT program manager at Ally Financial.“I’m still not much good at it,” Ross says of his braiding skills.
And the Boomer Generation is unwilling to waste precious time with regrets or feeling sorry for themselves. George Bonanno, a psychology professor at Columbia University who studies grief, explains that most surviving spouses initially oscillate between periods of deep sadness and distress and recalling good moments of laughter and joy.
His death left Burdick to raise their two young kids, Laura and Andrew, alone.
“I went to a couple of support groups, but they weren’t right for me,” Burdick recalls.
We’ve put together a guide to help you deal with your children’s issue and find a loving relationship.
Certainly many parent-child relationships mature into a friendship of equals.