Ignacy Paderewski, a Polish pianist, is famously quoted with the words: “If I miss one day of practice, I notice it. If I miss three days, the audience notices it.” At the same time, improvement is very gradual and often invisible…
Then, some day, you will wake up and think to yourself – “Wow!
Men can write something truly misogynistic or insulting to women and look forward to being featured on the many Tumblrs devoted to people who make asses out of themselves on OKCupid and revel in the many people coming by to gawk at the train wreck.
What you want is , you want the people whom you’re hoping to date… The very first thing that people look at when they get your message in their inbox and are trying to decide whether or not they’re intrigued enough to write back is your profile photo in the thumbnail. ladies” shirtless photos; all it does is make women think of The Jersey Shore – and not in a good way.
so you have to know how they think, what they’re looking for and, critically, how to grab them by the eyeballs. Your profile – your screen name, your photos, your vital statistics and your words – are your packaging and even slight flaws can make potential customers (dates) go off in search of products that strike them as more appealing. If you don’t snag those eyeballs right from the get-go, you’ve already lost them. You need your first photo to be one that impresses. Just your smiling face, possibly with a splash of color somewhere to help stand out from the other sea of photos. If you don’t have enough imagination to figure out how to get a photo from your time at the beach or waterpark to show that you’ve got more cuts than Tiesto then you really shouldn’t be worried about online dating in the first place.
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor I'm taking a break from my series on rejection to comment on another matter.
Your messages can be awesome, but unless you have a profile that makes them stop and pay attention… So I’m about to impart to you the secret to online dating success: you need to quit thinking like a lover. Worse, when you bring “marketing” and “internet” together, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? You want as many people as possible coming to see your profile and you want to keep those people around long enough to dazzle them with your brilliance (or at least baffle them with your bullshit) and make them decide that yes, they attention, the kind you don’t want.
He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. Work on them consistently, expect gradual improvement, don’t be discouraged when you seem to be getting nowhere… Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry. When you’re shopping, you can pick out whatever you like and make it yours. Your dark, artsy photos are great as a supplement, but she needs to see what you look like in the light, without a hat, and without sunglasses.When you’re dating, the person you choose actually has some say in the matter. While you are waiting for her reply, go on with your busy life.For something that’s frequently hailed as the dating salvation for the introverted, the socially awkward, and the shy, sometimes all that happens is… Your winks and messages get sent out and all you get for your trouble is deafening silence.